Have You Ever Looked in the Mirror and Wondered What Happened?

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered what happened? How could I have been so blind? Why didn’t I leave earlier? How did I become this voiceless woman, who struggles with making the smallest decisions, who feels like she can’t trust her own perceptions, left feeling empty and struggling to rediscover who she is?

First and foremost, you did not deserve what happened to you, and you are not alone. And hard as this may be to hear, God is still here by your side.

Losing who you are is a slow process. Little incidents that, at the time, didn’t seem significant, eroded your voice, your confidence, your whole being. Until one day you look in the mirror and ask that question: “Who am I?”

Now, you are free from the abuse. You have started over, yet still feel that uncertainty - still struggle with setting boundaries, still people-pleasing, still feeling voiceless. Everyone tells you that you should be having the time of your life, be happy, enjoy your freedom. But inside you still feel stuck and voiceless.

I get it. I’ve been there. With all the “shoulds” making you feel like you’re failing - but you are not! You are a survivor! You are still here, still breathing, and more resilient than you know.

There is hope. You can rediscover your identity, your voice, your worth. One small step at a time. Celebrating the smallest of wins. “You decided to get up this morning” - celebrate. You decided what to eat for breakfast - celebrate. You are surviving - celebrate!

Each small celebration helps to rewire your brain and tells your nervous system that you are safe and that it’s okay to relax. Tell a trusted friend of your successes and let them celebrate with you. Again, this helps your nervous system to know that not all people are dangerous.

Each small step you take is a huge win. A step toward anchoring your soul in the truth of who you really are.

This is the work we do together - not fixing you, because you were never broken, but helping you find your way back.

Until next time, May your soul be anchored to the truth.

Jean